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My Journey to A Month of Fatherhood

Our daughter is today one month old. We celebrated it by the regular doctor's check up. Once again she is fine, she gained weight and she is still beautiful (and I am not bias lol)

It's been a month of numerous adjustments in our lives my wife and I. The first week was crazy. After five days of three hours sleep a night, I thought I was going nuts, so was my wife. We had to adjust and we found a system that works for us. It's good that I work from home most of the times, otherwise it would be hard for my wife to manage it all. Now I really do have an incredible respect for single moms.

Yesterday was one of those nights when my wife couldn't sleep. In the morning, it was my turn to take care of the baby so that my wife could sleep a little. As I was putting the baby to sleep, I couldn't keep my eyes off of her. It will take a while before it sinks in that I am a father.

After spending a month with the baby, I can tell when she is hungry, when she needs sleep, when it's time to change diapers (that is the obvious one lol), and when it's time for fun. She has a way of communicating her needs, and of course as parents we have to address those. Sometimes, she doesn't get exactly what she wants, like when she is crying when we are putting her in a car seat before heading out. We know it's the best thing for her, even though she is crying, we do not back down. We do what we got to do.

As I was holding her in my arms today, I started thinking. There is nothing I cannot do for my child. Whatever she needs, I have to do whatever it takes to make it happen. All she has to do is ask (in her own way). Even though sometimes it hurts, I do things for her to protect her (the car seat...). She often cries when it happens, but it is for own benefit. One day she will understand. There are also things I cannot give her, as she would need to grow up for her to have them. All of this is done out of the love I have for her.

As I was thinking about all the above stuff, an “aha” moment just flashed in my mind. What if God is doing the same thing for us? All we have to do is ask and He will provide everything we need. Sometimes we experience things that hurt (the car seat), but it is for our own benefit and protection. Some other times we ask for things but don't get them, and all that God is saying is: grow up!

All the above things are done out of the love He has for us. Is that cool or what?

Moral of the story? Do you want to experience an “aha” moment? Just ask for things. If you don't get them, the message is clear: grow up!


Always a pleasure

Patrick
The Journeyman

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